Words as a portal
The soul of my writing continually dances with vulnerability and resilience. I write about self-betrayal, self-love, and the art of integration. I’m a thorough researcher, but my work doesn’t hide behind theory.
Often, I lay bare my own raw path—not to confess but to connect, to show that no one is as hopelessly flawed as they fear. Or perhaps that we all are :–)
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Reviews on Amazon ↓
“When I started reading this delightful and informative book, I could not put it down. I have ordered copies for both of my daughters and my ex-wife. This book is life-changing. I cannot recommend it enough. I now have a whole new understanding of my life and how and why the people close to me (including ) act the way we do. Thank you so much Tex, you have added greatly to my awareness.”
~ Philip Hiss, Amazon US
“I seen so many things in my own family that Tex writes about—self-sabotage, performance pressure, addictions, harmful relationships. This book makes sense of all of it. I really enjoyed Tex telling her personal experiences. I recommend the book.”
~ Verified reader, Amazon US
When Things Don’t Come Naturally
Are you the kind of person who repeatedly ruins good things? Chances are you’re being ruled by a deep fear of rejection—also known as chronic shame. This kind of shame isn’t just a passing feeling. It’s deeply tied to who you believe you are: not enough, not lovable.
It weaves itself into your identity, leading to countless ways of masking or compensating for it.
In fact, it underlies most unhealthy behaviors. Think of it like a glitchy computer operating system. And so, your software for relationships, performance, confidence, and happiness cannot run smoothly without a reboot. The good news: once you recognize this hidden driver, you can slowly begin living from greater self-worth.
What makes this book a real eye-opener is the position from which it is written. The author does not examine chronic shame from a clinical distance. She places herself at the center of the inquiry, exposing her own life experiences with unusual candor. At the same time, her personal narrative is accompanied by explanatory psychological background information.
When Things Don’t Come Naturally is a narrative psychology book for people who start, dream, and strive, yet never quite arrive. Chronic shame does not discriminate. It shapes the lives of women and men alike: high achievers, quiet strugglers, partners, losers, professionals, creatives, parents, and maybe you. A fearless and captivating blend of raw memoir and clear psychological insight for anyone tired of low self-worth and ready to face their masks and compensatory behaviors.
When Things Don’t Come Naturally
Are you the kind of person who repeatedly ruins good things? Chances are you’re being ruled by a deep fear of rejection—also known as chronic shame. This kind of shame isn’t just a passing feeling. It’s deeply tied to who you believe you are: not enough, not lovable.
It weaves itself into your identity, leading to countless ways of masking or compensating for it.
In fact, it underlies most unhealthy behaviors. Think of it like a glitchy computer operating system. And so, your software for relationships, performance, confidence, and happiness cannot run smoothly without a reboot. The good news: once you recognize this hidden driver, you can slowly begin living from greater self-worth.
What makes this book a real eye-opener is the position from which it is written. The author does not examine chronic shame from a clinical distance. She places herself at the center of the inquiry, exposing her own life experiences with unusual candor. At the same time, her personal narrative is accompanied by explanatory psychological background information.
When Things Don’t Come Naturally is a narrative psychology book for people who start, dream, and strive, yet never quite arrive. Chronic shame does not discriminate. It shapes the lives of women and men alike: high achievers, quiet strugglers, partners, losers, professionals, creatives, parents, and maybe you. A fearless and captivating blend of raw memoir and clear psychological insight for anyone tired of low self-worth and ready to face their masks and compensatory behaviors.
Just grab it.
GET THE BOOK
Just grab it.
GET THE BOOK
Reviews on Amazon ↓
“When I started reading this delightful and informative book, I could not put it down. I have ordered copies for both of my daughters and my ex-wife. This book is life-changing. I cannot recommend it enough. I now have a whole new understanding of my life and how and why the people close to me (including ) act the way we do. Thank you so much Tex, you have added greatly to my awareness.”
~ Philip Hiss, Amazon US
“I seen so many things in my own family that Tex writes about—self-sabotage, performance pressure, addictions, harmful relationships. This book makes sense of all of it. I really enjoyed Tex telling her personal experiences. I recommend the book.”
~ Verified reader, Amazon US
Reviews on the original Dutch edition of When Things Don’t Come Naturally
“Tex shows herself in an honest, vulnerable, and self-reflective way. Reading her book felt like a form of deep inner work.” ~ Harry
“A touching mix of personal story and clear theoretical insight. Recognition & acknowledgment—the first step toward healing.” ~ Ron
“Pure, enlightening, confronting, moving, nourishing, loving. A beautiful gift for those who want to learn about shame and self-rejection.” ~ Anja
“What a woman, and what beautiful writing! I no longer feel alone in this world. This book is a pearl.” ~ Toni
Originally published in Dutch as Uit Schaamte.
A 4.9/5 readers’ favorite in the Netherlands for its honesty and heart.
